Pointing People around

Do not point a person's mistake. What's the use of pointing out a mistake committed? By doing this, you will only make them feel more guilty, defensive or resentful and this will only create more distance. You should only point out the mistake of a person who does not know, but who wants to know. Do not point out the mistake of a person who knows but doesn't want you to know. Often people know the mistakes that they have committed, but they do not want you to tell them.

Think of the usefulness of your comments. Before pointing out the mistake of a person, see whether your comments in any way will help to improve the situation, foster love or bring harmony. A magnanimous person would not pick on the mistakes of others and make them feel guilty. However, they would correct them with compassion and care, not through words but through attitudes.


I agree with the others who feel that the act provides a false sense/status of superiority. In addition, I see a higher frequency lately, online and offline, of people using behaviors and speech that is degrading, diminishing, and profane to the level of filth. At the same time, many of these persons correct "mistakes" by supplying horrid misinformation.

Gossip is rampant everwhere and increasing numbers of unknowledgeble/untrained people are diagnosing Severe Mental Health Disorders without the right or license to do so.The impact of all this negativity is that it catches the attention and creates an image of people as wanting other peope to suffer badly and die in general.

Most people who like to point out the mistakes of others make many mistakes themselves. It makes them feel better about themselves to point out when others fail. That way, they can pat themselves on the back thinking for once it was not them.

I think some people will point out mistakes in a nice way to genuinely help another. But yes, there are others who do it because it gives them some weird sense of superiority - which in reality they don't have. People have tendency to point out mistakes of others just to dominate others. They are just arrogant and obnoxious!

Helpful tips for success @ work

In an attempt to function in this increasingly complex world, organizations are becoming increasingly complex themselves. They are built on collaborative partnerships, dotted lines and matrices, all of which mean more and more of your work depends on the work of someone else. When a colleague is making mistakes, this interconnectedness can feel like a major pitfall.

Yet a job where you don't interact with others is nearly impossible to find, not to mention somewhat boring. So, you need to figure out how to make relationships work. Every management expert would agree that positive working relationships are essential to getting things done. So what do you do when a colleague is not doing their part and it's affecting your work? Fortunately, handling your colleague's mistakes in a productive way cannot only help remove barriers but may also help your colleague, and you, gain new skills.

The type of mistakes you might be affected by vary greatly. A colleague may miss deadlines, not produce the work required, make errors in calculations or even provide you with misinformation. These may all be innocent mistakes fueled by lack of knowledge, experience, or awareness, but without more information you can't be sure and won't be able to act.

Diagnose the Issue

The first step in addressing your colleague's behavior is to understand what's really going on. Try to determine if the problem is short-term, such as a personal issue at home, a particularly heavy workload, or a health problem — or long-term, such as a lack of skill or a poor cultural fit with the organization.

Approach Your Colleague Directly

The best approach is to go to the source — speak with your colleague directly. This conversation should take place in an informal, private setting and you should always follow good feedback rules. Don't accuse or blame your colleague. Use concrete examples to explain what you are seeing and its impact on you.

We tend to attribute what's going wrong to an individual and specifically to something dispositional about them. This is dangerous because you are then attacking a person — not their behavior. Most importantly, to establish a common ground with your colleague, discuss the issue in context of mutual goals. You want to ask 'What can we do to achieve our goals?' not 'You screwed up again'.

Don't assume you know exactly why the colleague is making mistakes. You need to be open to learning that you're wrong about the situation. Use an inquiry mode and ask questions like "What's going on?" and "Am I misreading or misunderstanding the situation?" In fact, you may discover that your colleague wasn't aware of the mistakes or how her actions appeared to others.

Offer Help and Support

If a short-term issue is causing the mistakes, such as a difficult time at home or an illness in the family, you should offer to help. You may even consider covering for the person as a way to build a positive relationship. This world is all about connections and not only do you not want to jeopardize the relationship, but you want to build it. Covering may mean picking up extra work, spending time double checking their work or offering to explain to other colleagues what is going on. Covering doesn't mean that you should lie on behalf of your colleague, nor does it mean a permanent shift in job responsibilities. You should only cover when you have an explicit agreement that the situation is temporary until circumstances change.

If you find that the source of the mistakes is a longer term issue, such as a lack of skill, you can offer to help brainstorm solutions. Perhaps your colleague can find a course that will help build up their skills, or go to their manager to ask for assistance.

It is rarely a good idea to let your colleague continue to make mistakes. In very competitive organizations, the temptation is to let people die on their own swords. But in those environments, it's even more appreciated when you don't let them die. By being generous now, you are incurring the obligation of your colleague to help you in the future. This reciprocity is often what strong professional relationships are built on.

Protect Yourself

It's possible that you'll discover your colleague is intentionally making mistakes to undermine you or take credit for your work. These political situations are far messier to deal with. Fortunately they are far rarer as well. We only meet a handful people throughout his career that are "true snakes." It should be your last assumption that the colleague is making mistakes deliberately.

If we come across such a situation, You can try to confront the person directly, hoping that may make him or her back down. If that doesn't work you can use the following tactics:

- Make your work visible. Avoid bragging.
- Use the active voice instead of the passive voice. For example, try saying "I prepared these analyses that show where we should be investing resources" rather than "These analyses show where we should be investing resources."

- Offer to lead a presentation when joint work is being shared. People often think of the person in the front of the room as the leader, or at least one of the more active participants in a project.

- Take credit where credit is due. This doesn't mean you brag. Instead, showcase your involvement or let your manager know exactly what part of the project is the result of your efforts.

- In these political situations, don't resort to badmouthing your colleague. Negative comments often reflect as badly on you as they do on the person you are speaking about.

Despite all your efforts and care in handling the situation, it is possible that the mistakes will continue. This isn't only an inconvenience, it could hinder your career. The experts suggest you take a few approaches to preserving your reputation. If possible, avoid working with that person in the future. If that's not possible you can employ some of the same tactics listed above if the person were undermining you. Also, you should consider approaching your manager. Explain what you've done to date and ask for advice. Be clear you are not asking to intervene.

The experts agree that things would need to be very serious, e.g. the project you're working on is headed for failure, before you approach your colleague's manager. There is a major risk that you could alienate your colleague and permanently damage the relationship. In many organizational cultures, talking to a person's manager can be coded as not being "a team player."

Remember to........
Do:

Keep in mind that relationships matter
Be direct and honest with your colleague about how the mistakes are affecting you
Offer help if the colleague is struggling with a short-term issue such as a heavy workload or a personal issue

Don't:

Badmouth your colleague to anyone in the organization
Assume your colleague is aware of the mistakes
Go to your colleague's manager without first talking to your colleague and your manager

Fussy Babies....

Some moms use TV to soothe squirmy, fussy babies, but excess TV viewing in early life has been linked to weight problems and developmental delays in preschool.

Although doctors say babies should not watch television, some mothers may use the tube as a way to calm fussy infants, a new study suggests.

The results show that infants who were perceived , they squirmed a lot or fussier by their mothers were exposed to more TV each day compared with infants who were seen as less fussy.

Infants were especially likely to watch more TV if their mothers were obese or did not graduate from high school. Both factors are associated with more TV viewing.

Previous studies have found that infants with tempers are at greater risk for obesity later in childhood, and the new study offers a possible reason why. "Mothers use the TV to soothe and/or entertain them," the researchers wrote in the Jan. 7 issue of the journal Pediatrics.

Excess TV viewing early in life is a concern because the habit has been linked to weight problems and developmental delays in preschool kids, the researchers said. In addition, the TV viewing habits of young children appear to continue into later childhood and the teen years.


The findings suggest that one way to reduce TV exposure early in life is to give parents alternative strategies to help them calm fussy infants, said the researchers, from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages TV watching in children younger than 2, citing evidence that it does not provide an educational benefit, and may have adverse health effects.


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