It’s easy to complain when you’re riddled with anger, when you have so many
feelings and so many feelings about those feelings you’re consumed by a
maddening confusion. It’s easy when you can wax about
disappointment and heartbreak; when you’re overflowing with emotional
things to say; It’s easy when you
can lay everything out in terms of “existential” and “crisis”
But it’s not so easy to complain when you’re happy. Not
because you have less feelings, or
because your happy feelings are any less worthy of being shown out in public
than your sad feelings, but simply because being happy makes you want to
do rather than respond. Being happy makes you want to go out and enjoy
your happiness — there’s just no incentive for you to be crouching in
half darkness over your notebook or laptop, muttering sinisterly for days on end without showering when you’re happy. Not
that I’ve ever done any of that, I mean, I totally shower every day and
stuff.
When you’re sad, one of your first instincts will often be
analysis — why do I feel this way? What is actually happening here? How
can I make myself feel better? Why doesn’t he/ she like me? Why can’t I
get that dream job? OMG DO YOU ACTUALLY
EXPECT ME TO GO TO THE SHOP TO BUY MORE ICE CREAM IN THIS STATE I’M IN?
And in turn this analysis becomes your fingers tap-tap-tapping on the
keyboard, which would eventually endup on social media.
Writing
about bad feelings on social media is cathartic. Moreover, going back and reading your rants
can often lead you to see JUST HOW SILLY YOU ARE BEING. You can get
lots of sympathy from people who feel the same way, which makes you feel
less alone and totally justified. Moreover,
you are passionate in these moments, foolhardy and reckless with your
words.
Whatever
it is that’s making you happy, you just want to enjoy it — you
certainly don’t want to hole yourself up in a dank, windowless room
writing moving things about your feelings, you want to be out FEELING
THEM. You don’t want to talk; you want to do. You don’t want to reflect;
you want to be. So it’s harder, much harder, to write when you’re
happy.
You know people want to read about your happiness, that yes,
people will relate, just as they relate to your sadness. And you know
that when you’re happy, you’ll rush through whatever it is you’re
writing anyway, because you just want to thrust open a window looking
down over a busy street and sing out to the crowd before you race down
into the throng to embrace whatever it is that is making you so
deliriously, distractingly, overwhelmingly happy.
Its not easy to keep happy or unhappy, pleasent or angry moods all around the time. We go through both these emotions and everyday. We will have emotional swings. Speaking up, writing your concerns in life when you are happy makes more sense at the point of time and also in future. The words you choose while being happy will make a lot of difference in the life of the person listening or reading.
